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Great article! It's crazy how much influence there has been to shape our view of the sexes in superficial terms. Radical feminism says: women = mature, men = immature. Now Red Pill ideology says: men = mature, women = immature. It's such a tempting way to view the world, cause it's a shortcut to "maturity". It's an instant justifier. As a man, I have to say, going on a YouTube binge and watching a bunch of Red Pill videos, I could feel how strong the temptation to paint the sexes in broad strokes like that is. Like my mind was in haze, until I went and had a casual conversation with my wife, realized I was talking to a mature and kind person, and then could suddenly see through all the Red Pill garbage. I'm glad I didn't discover any Red Pill stuff till after I got married, otherwise it might have done some damage to my psyche. I'm convinced that men talking to even one woman with some depth should be enough to dismantle all Red Pill ideology. But the content machine is brainwashing people with examples of shallow, superficial women, and saying that "they are all like that". It's ridiculous. We need to keep encouraging both sexes to develop conscientiousness.

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I don't think things are worse than ever. I'd bet young men always looked for shorter sexual relationships, and especially as women aged they looked for more reliable partners.

Some of it probably has to do with younger people being less rational, more emotional and hormone driven.

Some of the perception of things generally falling apart has to do with the increased visibility of all facets of life. If even 20 years ago there was a large cohort of malajusted 30 something year olds, outside of elite circles of writers and media, they'd probably just be completely ignored. Now they have a platform that connects them, and makes it look like this massive problem. But is this anything new, or is this just something that was always there?

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Having two grandsons facing a really toxic environment with young women, I feel so sorry for the young generation. Both sexes are wary of even dating because it appears to both that asking or being asked for a date implies a long-term relationship; therefore young men don't want to ask and women are afraid to accept an invite. OR young women get hyper-aggressive, do the asking, and want to push a casual friendship into something sexual. It's bad news for everyone.

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